A Message from a Friend

I wrote this blog 4 years ago, I was turning 26 then… and this was my point of view.  Now that I’m already in my BIG 30, what has changed?  Let’s find out…

Let me quote a part of the message that was sent to me by a very good friend dated May 4, 2005 09:13AM

“Hindi ka ba naaalarm na this year we’ll be turning 26 na. And yet, you still don’t have a bf.”

this made me think for a while before i reply to her e-mail.  i asked myself, the same question and found out that i’m not actually alarmed that i’m turning 26 in a month’s time and yet i still don’t have a boyfriend. well, maybe “alarmed” was not the right word for that but “pressured”. yeah! admittedly, when almost all the people around me were saying “hey! you’re not getting any younger, you’re turning 26 and you don’t have a boyfriend yet.”  or something like  “when are you planning to settle down? don’t you want to have a family of your own?” i do get pressured.  OH! stop it please…it was always difficult for me to answer those questions

of course, who doesn’t want to have that special someone? i think everybody would have loved to experience the magic that love brings, the happiness (and “kilig”) that it gives and the fulfillment of a dream came true, etc.  i also dreamed, dream and still dreaming to be with someone whom i can confidently and completely entrust my heart with, but he’s not showing up yet.  so, i just have to wait!  i just don’t buy the idea that i’m going to settle for less when i can have the best.  i mean, it’s not worth all the wait and sacrifices that i’ve been through all these years.  for me, it’s not a pride but a virtue called patience…

having a family of my own?  that’s basically one thing that will make me complete.  being the best wife and mother that i could ever be.  but getting into a family life isn’t easy.  first, there must be “the one” (which i don’t have right now!) whom you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with.  second, both of you must be emotionally, financially, physically and spiritually stable.  third, you must not have the doubt (not really on the person but on your decision) i always keep this in mind “if you have doubt, delay!”  this motivates me to think things over and over again before making decisions.  because i believe, if there are anxieties…you won’t be able to come up with a firm decision, and a good one too. the difficult part of it is when you have decided into something and found out that it’s not what you really wanted in life.  it’s not easy to put together all the broken pieces, and no matter how hard you try, it will never be as perfect as it was before…  in marriage, LRT is very important.  L-ove, T-rust & R-espect. these three must always go together… but nothing can be more important than letting GOD be always at the center of your relationship.  it’s the perfect LOVE TRIANGLE…which means “as the two of you get closer to HIM, you’re also getting closer to each other”

i’ve always believed that “the one” is just somewhere out there but i don’t have any idea who that person is.  i just have to keep the faith within me that if i can’t find him…he’ll be the one to find me.  i’m sure God has prepared “someone” for me…i just have to be more patient.  there’s always a right time for everything, and that right time would be God’s perfect time.

if things were not meant to be, no matter how hard we try…we can’t make them happen but if it’s the other way around, it will happen whether we like it or not.

Uhmmm….I guess, not much has changed!  Except that I already have “the one”.  Toinkz!!! c”,)